The most important lesson that I have learned in life is that, despite the gravity of a negative situation, it is usually only temporary...
I like to invoke the age old adage of "this, too, shall pass" whenever I am facing a daunting situation.
In sum, don't let difficult circumstances outside of your control consume you, but do do what is within your power to address whatever you're facing w/the knowledge that it probably won't last a lifetime.
You never want to be 90 lying in a hospital bed wondering what would have happened if I would have done something different in my life. ( I will tell you the story some day.) Just go do it the worst that can happen is it didn't work and you can try something different.
The next one is everything in your life is your responsibility, don't blame anyone, only you can make things happen , no one else.
Well I think the most important lesson I've learned it's to live in the present and stop worrying about future.
Be happy with what I have now and learn to enjoy "small and simple" things.
From watching a sunset to feeling the wind in my face. It's some kind of meditation I try to do every day and it actually works for me.
Also I learned the more grateful I am with what I have and stop wishing and desiring things I don't own yet, I'm happier. There will be always something you can't possess.
From bad experiences, there are also positives that come from it. And what happens is often out of our control, but those unintended consequences can have a powerful impact on people we could never have expected.
My mom always played this stupid game where she asked "What could be worse than this?". And the lesson was basically, no matter how bad something feels, you're lucky, you're better off then some, or at the very least, it could ALWAYS be worse.
At the times when you want to pull your hair out at scream, are usually the times that if you push through, you end up learning the most and walking away with the best experience.
My parents instilled the importance of honesty. Your reputation will precede you. You can't achieve much in life if others don't feel they can trust you.
I think one of the most important lessons that I have learned is to listen more and talk less. I have wasted a lot of time trying to persuade other people of my opinion when I could have instead gained their perspective and deepened my understanding.
Most important life lesson someone has passed on to me is to build a story in life. Make your story interesting for the next step in life.
Is that you can make anything come true as long as you are persistent. Also adding onto that is to let go of humility and really soak up advice from people, gain from their experiences no matter what your opinion is.
Most important lesson is you can do anything you put your mind to.
I feel like it applies to everything else.
My parents drove it into my mind.
It took years maybe decades in order to appreciate what it means.
Nobody can pass life lesson to me. It can only be learned by myself, learned the hard way.
I was looking at Erica's notebook, and found these words,"enlightenment"," Candide". Becka was with me and told me about the book "Candide" written by Voltaire in 18c. The book gave me many answers to my questions, what's the meaning of life.
Hmm well I don't know if they are the MOST important lessons...but what comes to mind is my dad telling me to look for the good in every person, because it is easy to find faults but concentrating on the positive can make a world of difference.
And as to the first question... I feel like there are so many. Maybe it's to try not to dwell on past mistakes/actions because they can cause way too much anxiety and stress and it's just not worth it.
On advice passed down: My boss in 1996. I've passed this advice along countless times, not to mention living by it every day. "When you're not sure what the right thing to do is, just ask yourself, 'what would your customer want you to do?' Then you have your answer." I've found this to be applicable in work and non-work situations.
Quoting all airline flight attendants..."Put your oxygen mask on first before you help others." You can't help others, which I believe is one reason we're here on earth, if we don't take care of ourselves first. This is NOT selfishness--This selflessness. Put your mask on and then HELP OTHERS who deserve the help.
The lesson that someone passed on me is that you are entitled to fail. Everyone has it's own path and just because you are not where you want to be at the moment it doesn't mean that you failed. Maybe the lesson is not that you are entitled to fail but more to be gentle to yourself.
I will say for the life lesson not to get attached too easily to people, to things. Everything is temporary so really enjoy the given moment that is a blessing. Whether it's a good or bad experience it will always help you grow.
My most important lesson I've learned is that regardless of someone's vocation they are important to society. Society will fall apart without janitors as easily as it would without doctors or CEO's.
Treat everyone with respect regardless of what they do in life...if they earn it. Whatever you choose to do, Do it to the best of your ability.
Well honestly, John has taught me to have more fun in life. Things don’t always have to be so serious. We balance each other out well, but he honestly is a huge inspiration. He takes in every single moment, detail by detail. Always finding something positive in it.
It’s okay to ask questions & not have all the answers.
People appreciate when you sincerely want to learn about them, their lives, careers, etc. I shy away from it sometimes because I don’t want to seem unaware, but I’ve always found people being willing to share.
Risks expands you. To make positive changes in your life you often must take risk!! My mom is a risk taker! Example: my mom’s cleaners. She put a little money in at first then she expanded in her business and had gained many customers!
Self-consciousness: being self-conscious isn’t a bad thing as society has let us to believe, it is a good thing - it means you are aware that your words/actions have an impact on your environment and people and you take that impact seriously.
Start with why (there is a whole book by Simon Sinek/ted talk). Essentially why do you do what you do? Why is it important? Why should anyone care? If you live/work by your why you will live a passion filled life.
Well, probably the most important lesson I have learned is to admit when you’re wrong, apologize, and be humble about it, accepting the consequences with grace. Eventually your character is revealed, and how you respond to situations says more about you than your mistakes.
Most important life lesson, is people will be s----y to you but you can’t let that change who you are. I try to be nice to most people and leave them feeling better than when they came into contact with me. If someone is mean or hurtful I try to remind myself that’s not what I’m about, and don’t let them change who I want to be or how I treat the next person.
An important life lesson I guess is life goes on with or without you. It sounds super depressing but it makes me remember that even though there are bad things in life you can either sit and wallow in the sad stuff or you can deal with it, and let your life continue or you will be stuck in it forever.
Best life lesson I will give - Always be yourself. Even when people criticize you or judge you. Don't change to please others. Always try to be the best version of yourself.
As for what somebody else has passed on to me… Hmmmmm… Yah. I’m going to seriously up-vote potty training. That was passed down to me. I’m very happy with that knowledge!
At some point I finally realized that everybody has a different reality, so if you detach yourself from what you perceive as reality for a minute, you can kinda realize how insane the rest of the planet is. That comes in very handy! Particularly with religion and politics and cultural issues!
Never lend money to friends or family that you expect to get back. Give it as a gift with no strings or expectations of repayment.
The life lesson the someone has passed on to me is to remember to always do the right thing, treat people the way that you want to be treated and have no expectations.
And the most important life lessons I've learned is that no matter how much you take care of yourself and follow the law and be responsible, it doesn't matter. You can still wake up one day and become permanently, chronically, debilitatingly sick. And those who went out getting wasted and doing drugs every night will be as healthy as ever.
And it sucks.
And it's not fair.
And so much for your dreams.
Health is the most important thing in life. If you don't have health, you don't have anything. You can get by without friends, without being rich, anything, really. But if you don't have health then you have nothing.
That stupid saying, "but at least you have your health" is very true.
Don't compromise your health by pushing yourself well beyond your breaking point. Your health is more important than any job, no matter how amazing or well paid it is.
I disagree with the argument to push yourself no matter what "because it's not like it's going to kill you." Well, it actually can. The body can only take so much, and no matter how strong you are, or how often you've pushed yourself past your limits, you WILL reach a point where your body says no more. No, really, no more.
You'll know when "pushing through" becomes "pushing to stay alive" every minute of every day.
Stop.
Quit.
Don't keep going.
It's not worth it.
Who cares what your resume looks like if you're too disabled to work. All that money you were so proudly earning will now go towards prescriptions and doctor's visits, instead of whatever you had dreamed.
I learned from my friend to stop comparing myself to others and do what I love and be grateful every day.
I guess the most important lesson that I've learned so far is that anything that is worth having is never going to be gained easily. And in most cases the fight is what makes it worth it.
If everyone knew how amazing it feels to jump out of an airplane and there was no risk involved everyone would do it. Knowing there's even the tiniest chance that your parachute won't open takes the option off the table for most people. But if you can put that fear aside for just a short enough time to get yourself up in the plane, make it to the door and finally let go... within 2 seconds that fear leaves your body and for a few minutes you're flying. And those few minutes you will never forget.
The most important lesson that I've learned in my life so far is to always be kind, polite, and a woman of integrity.
Probably not to rely on others for your happiness. If you aren't happy with yourself and your life, no one else can truly make that happen for you even if it seems like they can in the beginning. Sometimes you just need to do things/change things for yourself and you can't always do everything for other people.
If that means that some people are no longer a part of your life in the same way, that's okay. Don't wait around for others - move forward with your own life and your own goals.
It costs nothing to treat people with kindness. To value people and use things, because the opposite never works.
Someone once said - probably - that if you can reach at least one person, you've done more than most of us could accomplish in a lifetime.
Live in the now. Working with people with TBI (traumatic brain injury), the events of the past few months, everything can change in an instant.
- I had one client who went for his daily bike ride and some teens decided it would be fun to grab his bike and throw him into a mailbox.
- Another client was just driving home and someone t-boned them and he lost his wife.
I think the most important is to live in the now. Don't worry about the next step (there are exceptions of course), but if you can't just take a moment and look around and see what you have, you'll just waste away. Then, suddenly, what you do have will be gone, and then where will we be? (especially with stress)
I think the one that's most applicable to everyone, and the easiest to "get," is giving yourself time to evaluate what to pick up and what to put down. You don't really know until you need it the most.
- If your life becomes frantic all the time.
- If you’re unhappy.
- Or a check in when you ARE feeling pretty good.
What to pick up (or keep) is what is serving you. What to put down is what is no longer serving you. In the sense that you cannot keep things as they are and be your most authentic self and you balance these determinations against the values that you have and the reality of the life that you have.
Be kind to yourself. It is perfectly acceptable to make mistakes as long as they are learning tools. It's too easy to internalize "failure". You have to change the way you look at the outcome.
I would say the biggest thing I've learned is to relax.
Life is hard, no one has it easy, everyone has problems. It's how you deal with them that makes the difference in happiness.
If you stress about everything then everything will be stressful.
I have learned to determine what is important in my life by learning myself. What I value. Knowing that I've learned to make choices based on what I need to be happy.
Live life for yourself and no one else because you only have one life. In the end I wouldn't want to have any regrets because I lived my life according to someone else's standards. The most important lesson is to love yourself first.
It is important to value people and who they are instead of what they have and what they can do for you.
